Today I met up with an old friend for a coffee, it was really great to see her and we had a big ol’ catch up, spilled the gossip and had a wander round some charity shops. It was really nice, we’d been friends for years and years but we lost touch. We started talking about the people we used to be friends with from school and what they’re up to and it got me thinking. Apart from maybe 2 or 3 people, I barely speak to anyone from school anymore. I’ve lost touch with a lot of people, some of them it was for the best but some it has made me quite sad, and maybe even a little bitter, that we lost touch.
Don’t get me wrong school is great, well sort of, and it can be argued that you learn valuable life lessons there. Now, this isn’t a generic rant about how school doesn’t really prepare you for life, teach you about taxes or about mortgages or whatever – there are plenty of rants about that out there. What I’m talking about is how it doesn’t show you whats important and what not.
When I was at school I spent way too much of my time worrying if I was cool enough, or if I had enough friends. I would avoid the ‘popular’ kids because they were intimidating, and I would cling on to the small group of friends I had because it would just be so uncool if you have no friends. I worried too much about my make up, my clothes on mufti-days, about the rumours, being friends with the cool kids, blah blah blah! But really, it didn’t matter. Like, not even in the slightest.
School didn’t teach you that in even a year after you’ve left, you most probably wouldn’t even be friends with the majority of the people you associated yourself with. You’ll make all the effort in the world to keep in touch and catch up with them, and that works for like a month and then you drift apart. Occasionally message each other and that’s it. It’s sad, but it happens.
The point I’m making is that all the days you or I spent worrying about getting in with the cool kids and getting that all important invite to their party and all that crap, was pointless. I wish I had known that. It would have saved me so much worry! I did well at school, but I probably could have done better. I would have done better if I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about what people thought of me or whether so-and-so was going to start a rumour about me. Do you get what I’m saying?
In no way does school prepare you for real life, but it also didn’t teach you how much none of it will matter once you’ve left. People get on with their lives or they stay in that high school rut, and they forget about you. Simple. So if anyone who is in school now reads this.. all this drama at school will be forgotten by the time you’ve left. It won’t matter. So stop worrying!
I apologize for this rant post but I felt it needed to be said.
Regardless of all this, it was really super nice to spend my morning catching up, I had a lovely day and hopefully it won’t take as long to organize something else soon!
Okay … rant over!