Ask anyone and I can almost guarantee that when asked “what do you want?” the answer will be to simply be happy. It’s what we all want. But with all of life’s stresses and pressure and never ending to-do lists, sometimes true happiness can seem very far away at times.
But what you may not realise is that happiness isn’t out of reach. Happiness is right here, it’s all about making the choice to be grateful for what you have and making the most of what you have despite your less than perfect circumstances. If you sit around waiting for happiness to find you then I hate to break it to you, but you will never be happy.
There is always something to be grateful for, there is always something to be happy about – it doesn’t matter how little or big that thing may be. Even on the crappiest of days there is something to be happy about, it’s all about learning to recognise the little things in life and learning to be grateful for the tiny little bits that make up your life.
If you focus your energy on what you do have as opposed to what you wish you had then you will start realised how incredibly blessed you already are. Sitting there and moping about what is going wrong or things to be sad about isn’t going to do anything for your happiness at all.
APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE
Like I said before, too many people focus on what they don’t have, what they want or what someone else has and that just isn’t going to get you anywhere. Recognise your blessings and the things you can be grateful for – there is absolutely always something that you can be grateful for, even if you just wake up in the morning and tell yourself that you are grateful for waking up. There is no shortage of things to be grateful for so start recognising them and you will find yourself naturally becoming happier. A great way to kick this is off is to start a Gratitude Journal.
BE KIND TO OTHERS
Spread kindness and love wherever you go – it you radiate happiness around you then others will pick up on it too and be happy themselves. You never know who may need your positive vibes, plus it will naturally make you happy too.
STOP FOR A MOMENT
Life gets very busy so it helps to take a moment every now and then to savour the moment and reflect on what you have got done. For some reason, being busy has become some sort of badge of honour – the busier you are and the more you’re running around like a headless chicken, the better. Well, that isn’t true in the slightest – by all means, get in the zone and bosh loads of your work, but remember to take a few minutes out to celebrate any big or small achievements.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Know that you’ve totally got this. If you don’t believe you can do it, who else is going to? You’re going do some much better in terms of your dreams and goals if you have faith in yourself, throw yourself whole-heartedly into achieving what you want to achieve – know your worth and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
I mentioned before in previous posts that you need to recognise toxic people and cut them out of your life. You need a circle of positive and supportive people, people who you can be yourself around and can share a desire for achieving your dreams. People who are rooting for you as much you are rooting for yourself. If you spend too much time around negative people then you can guarantee that it’s going to make you feel down too. Good energy is contagious.
I’m not being funny but there will always be someone who is smarter, funnier, prettier, etc than you. I’m sorry to break it to you but you are not perfect, but you are you. And to me, that’s better. No one can do you, better than you. As soon as you stop comparing yourself to other, the sooner you can be happy. Stop trying to be anything other than yourself, it’s not worth it and you will be so much happier when you learn to accept that actually, you’re pretty amazing.
BE SOLUTION DRIVEN
We all know that the road to success is never a straight one, no matter how successful you are, there will always be challenges. Instead on focusing on the problem and stressing about it, look for the solution. Change the way you look at challenges, look at it from the ways that you resolve it and then learn from it. Any successful person know that problems and mistakes are an opportunity to learn, to figure out where you went wrong and to learn from it to make sure you don’t encounter the same problem twice.
Keep your mind engaged and active and better yourself – there is always something new to learn. Learning new things widens our comfort zone, and magical things happen when we enter this new territory. It’s easy, you could watch TED Talks, watch documentaries, take an evening class or just read a book – it’s fun and is such a valuable way of bettering ourselves.
YOU DON’T NEED TO BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME
Let go of your need to always be right, does it really matter who or what is right and wrong? And is it so important that it warrants all of your attention? Swallow the need to be right and use the time and energy you save on things that deserve your attention much more.
DON’T HOLD GRUDGES, FORGIVE
No matter the situation, forgiving someone is so much healthier than holding onto a grudge. It’s just not worth it, it’s a waste of energy and turns you spiteful and unhappy. By forgiving someone, you let go of any bitterness or resentment and instantly us feel lighter and much much better.
Don’t they always say that laughter is the best medicine? And it’s free, too. Its contagious, have you ever looked at someone doubled over laughing and felt a smile creep onto your face? It’s such a brilliant feeling! Laughing is good for the soul, it releases a heck of a lot of endorphins and naturally makes you feel happier.
LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
You must treat your body with respect. How you treat your body is a reflection on how you treat your mind. Feed yourself the right food, get your heart rate pumping and learn when your body needs to rest. You need to have energy and feel awake if you want to be happy and successful and the only way you can do that is to nourish your body and treat it well.